That time of the month doesn’t have to be dry.
On top of the typical headaches, bloating and mood changes on the days leading up to your period, you might feel that sex is more uncomfortable. We look at the possible causes and helpful ways to manage the discomfort, whatever the time of the month.
So, sex feels different as you’re nearing your period? Welcome to the club! Everything from a change in sex drive to a change in moisture down there may be due to a change in hormones. In fact, the highs and lows of your sex life might be more in sync with your cycle than you think. We explore why sex might be uncomfortable at different times of the month and look at ways – including the use of lube – to ease discomfort.
WHY CAN SEX BE UNCOMFORTABLE BEFORE YOUR PERIOD?
In the lead-up to your period, your mind and body might have to deal with all sorts of intruders: mood changes, headaches, bloating and various other symptoms of premenstrual syndrome (PMS) are just some of the not-so-pleasant things women commonly experience, often days to weeks before any sign of blood.
Sex can feel different and even uncomfortable shortly before your period arrives. There can be a variety of causes down there. When you take a look at the list of pre-period troubles, it’s easy to see why sex might be off the menu for you. And even if you’re still keen to get it on, it’s not hard to imagine why it might take a little more effort to get yourself nice and comfortable.
Of course, you should never have to put up with uncomfortable sex, regardless of the time of the month. If you’re finding that sex is consistently uncomfortable or painful at any point, it’s really important to visit your doctor as soon as possible, so they can look at the possible causes.
IS THE DISCOMFORT NEARLY ALWAYS IN THE VAGINA?
Not at all. You might experience the discomfort in or around your vagina. That’s to say, the more that your entire body is comfortable and at ease, the less likely you are to experience discomfort during sex.
If, for example, you’re more prone to headaches in the week before your period starts, then this might have a knock-on effect on your ability to relax and enjoy the ride with your partner(s) during sex. Managing any discomfort, wherever that may be, can be key to having a good time.
WHAT CAN YOU DO ABOUT VAGINAL DRYNESS?
Many woman can find a change in vaginal moisture at different stages in their cycle. If you’re drier on certain days, but still want sex, don’t let a lack of moisture rain on your parade. There are many things you can do to help get your juices flowing. From taking more time at the foreplay stage or masturbating before you invite your partner(s) to join in, find the ways that help you to feel more relaxed, and in turn, more turned on. Oh, and did we mention the benefits of lube?
CAN LUBE REALLY HELP WITH UNCOMFORTABLE SEX BEFORE YOUR PERIOD?
Yes! Lube can be a handy little addition to your bedroom toolkit, no matter the day of your cycle. In fact, if you like sex during your period, lube can instantly help to add to your natural juices. Durex Naturals Lube can be a great choice for use before, during, and after your period. It’s gentle enough for use everywhere, so you (and your partner) can go with the flow, and not be held back by any discomfort caused by lack of moisture.
HOW CAN KEEPING AN EYE ON YOUR CYCLE HELP?
If you find that sex is more uncomfortable before your period, then understanding the pattern of your menstrual cycle can help you to prepare for the easing of any discomfort. On the days you’re typically more sensitive to discomfort, you’ll know to be extra kind and gentle to yourself.
HOW CAN TALKING HELP YOU?
Women who have a cycle, and periods are sharing the experience. If you’ve ever experienced discomfort during sex at any stage of your cycle, it can be really comforting to talk with good friends. They may be able to help you think about possible reasons for this and have some pearls of wisdom to share about things that have helped them. However, if you have persistent symptoms you are worried about, it’s best to speak with your doctor.
Also, let your partner(s) know when sex feels less comfortable than it should. If you are keen on having sex but are worried that it’ll be uncomfortable, tell your partner(s) this. Tell them where the areas of discomfort are and guide them in what feels good (and what doesn’t). Any partner(s) who values a mutually good experience will take the time and patience to ensure sex is as comfortable as it can be, whatever the time of the month.
